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How to cope with emotional pains after death of my parents(on 7th aug my mom and 2006,my father)

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  • have brave heart and let not your heart troubled brother, i prayed to God u should get all the joy and success in future which is a ultimate goal of u and ur mother ..at this time God should give u strength and courage to withstand this pain...hope u soon come to normal for ur flourished preparation to reach IAS ....all the best brother....dont get worried ...be happy always ...still ur mother is living in ur every deeds ....SHE IS JUST BESIDE U... [-X
  • @sushanta123 , very sorry to hear the news bro, but its heartening that u r taking up the exam this year.
    may god give you strength to cope up with the situation. i WILL pray for you.
    good luck
  • thnx all of u for ur kind support.
  • @sushanta123
    My deepest condolences for your loss. You must know nothing in this world can payback what you have lost, just nothing, but then that's life. You are in my prayers and I wish you well.
    Make the memories of your parents your leading light, make sure your moments with them will hand hold in the time of need than bog you down. I cannot dare enough to imagine your pain, but a man is made out of tough situations.

    I just have a few suggestions, 1. Try to have an exercise routine(run/jog for a couple of KMs) 2. Please practice meditation , these both come across as pompous initially, however help you to be in a good state of mind once you do these consistently for a period of month or so. I hope you set a routine.

    Before I end my post, I just wanted to share this I had read on Quora long back, something I fished out specifically for you, because in life grit, determination, hard work have no substitute. I'm not really sure if this has a parallel to your story, however it paints the struggle of a real person to be and do what she dreamed herself of.

    http://www.quora.com/Teenagers-and-Teenage-Years/How-do-I-turn-my-life-around-as-a-teenager/answer/Shuba-Swaminathan?srid=Od0R&share=1

    again, My best wishes for your future and remember you yourself alone can make a difference to your life and no one else. :)
  • I cannot even imagine, how you must be feeling. Such a profound loss is destabilizing. But take it as a source of strength. On the day you will clear it and become IAS, they will be watching you and feeling proud. Dedicate your achievement to them. In your life, consider them as a higher guiding force. And always do the due.
  • Bhai, a great leader and social servant was killed in Bastar attacks. Within few days, prelims exam was there. His son was preparing for IAS. He didn't attend funeral. On being asked why, he replied- my father always wanted me to be an IAS.
  • Dear Sushanta,

    Deepest condolences for your loss.... I pray to God to give you strength to weather this situation...

    But dear, let me make one thing straight... there is always a purpose behind any event. That purpose becomes clear to us only in hindsight. So keep this loss, severe though it may be, behind you and look ahead....

    Look ahead, and you may see mother India calling you to your duty, with expectant and benevolent eyes.... You may even see the Almighty lovingly console you by saying' "Son, I have taken the course of your life in my own hands henceforth, so don't think you're alone"... Probably, when you meet your father and mother a long time from now, they would be proud of your spirit and perseverance...

    I applaud your will to carry on, and am sure you will emerge a much stronger, refined and successful individual with this attitude... May God bless you!

    Regards,
  • my heart felt condolences, but listen you have all the ability to make them proud, use all your potential and achieve their goal for you that will make them happiest, remember that your parents would never want you to waste your time in their name channel all your energy your love for them into your work..
    God bless you, wish you success
  • edited August 2014
    hey friend, i know what emotional turbulence you must be facing at this moment. my heartfelt condolence!
    keep your spirits high brother and focus on your preparations. When we lose a physical presence of someone, we can connect with the person through our passion and spirituality. Your parents are always there- with you and for you and they would not like to see you sad.. so cheer up buddy, if not for yourself, do it for them!! O:-)
  • Obstacles are not the end of life. They come and they pass. Just remember:

    This Too Shall Pass.

    Be strong and focus on the task at hand. Success shall be yours.
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