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हा मेरे दोस्त वही बारिश वही बारिश जो आसमान से आती है बूंदों मैं गाती है पहाड़ों से फिसलती है नदियों मैं चलती है नेहरों मैं मचलती है कुवे पोखर से मिलती है खाप्रेलो पर गिरती है गलियों मैं फिरती है मोड़ पर संभालती है फिर आगे निकलती है वही बारिश
ये बारिश अक्सर गीली होती है इसे पानी भी कहते है उर्दू मैं आप मराठी मैं पानी तमिळ मैं कन्नी कन्नड़ मैं नीर बंगला मैं… जोल केह्ते है संस्क्रित मैं जिसे वारि नीर जीवन पै अमृत पै अम्बु भी केह्ते है ग्रीक मैं इसे aqua pura अंग्रेजी मैं इसे water फ्रेंच मैं औ’ और केमिस्ट्री मैं H2O केह्ते है
ये पानी आँख से ढलता है तो आँसू कहलता है लेकिन चेहरे पर चढ़ जाये तो रुबाब बन जाता है हां…कोई शर्म से पानी पानी हो जाता है और कभी कभी यह पानी सरकारी फ्य्लो मैं अपने कुए समेत चोरी हो जाता है
पानी तो पानी है पानी जिन्दगानी है इसलिए जब रूह की नदी सुखी हो और मन का हिरण प्यासा हो दीमाग मैं लगी हो आग और प्यार की घागर खाली हो
तब मैं….हमेशा ये बारिश नाम का गीला पानी लेने की राय देता हूँ मेरी मानिए तो ये बारिश खरिदेये सस्ती सुन्दर टिकाऊ बारिश सिर्फ 5 हज़ार रुपये मैं इस्से कम मैं दे कोई तो चोर की सज़ा वो मेरी आपकी जुती सिर पर मेरी मेरी बारिश खरीदये सस्ती सुन्दर टिकाऊ बारिश
Nana Bhai ki Wajood. Sahi Hai Guru. Aur Haan "Wohi Barish..."
I feel so out of place among my own family of origin and relatives that I no longer identify myself with them.
I won't shed a tear for them.
I want to get separated from our joint family, and shift to Delhi /Gurugram permanently, with my mum, and have an old school business of my own, preferably a restaurant, coffee house or a showroom. And get married to girl of my choice.
And they're just not complying.
They want me to get any job, no matter how menial it is, and get married to the girl of their choice and remain in the joint family.
And i don't want to study or prepare for any competitive exam. I don't feel like. I just don't see the point.
And I'm never getting any decent job now. And since it's not decent, I don't want it. Ego problem. Besides, I legit will make more money in business. No rent / No loan. I intend to do it on my own piece of land, without any loan.
And I'm not capable of these new age hi fi edu startups and Zuckerberg type of stuff. I'm old school.
I feel so lonely and not respected and not heard among my family members and relatives that I'm compelled to live as a tenant in this room in ORN under the guise of IAS prep. Don't know for how long can it continue.
All my love for my family is dead.
To this day, I'm not in talking terms with one of my real sisters for reasons best left unsaid. It's been years.
I despise the family of my aunt and her sons (like mother like sons) to the core, for abetting dad's suicide. Been a nightmare to see that lady and her sons everyday, more so, when I see no change in their behaviour pre dad and post dad.
I wonder if they feel guilty at night. I wonder if the word shame exists in their head.
My cousin(her son) went to Melbourne and I didn't even feel like meeting him 'fore he left. (Lot of my distant family and relatives are in Melbourne.)
And yeah, our own tenant, over a decade ago, bullied me like crazy, and family was more concerned about the rent than me.
Self confidence took a massive jolt and began stammering. College went disaster.
I shall fall asleep now.
P. S. - No bashing at me, please! Yes, I'm a loser and I don't want to get out of it. Some people find more comfort in pain than pleasure. Go read that Secure compilation, do answer writing practice, and hone your optional!
brother.... ur much more courageous than u sound here... i can guarantee that.... have faith in ur self .. and if u actually want to be happy.. chase ur dreams at any cost ... not some one else.. love from another struggling aspirant
I feel so out of place among my own family of origin and relatives that I no longer identify myself with them.
I won't shed a tear for them.
I want to get separated from our joint family, and shift to Delhi /Gurugram permanently, with my mum, and have an old school business of my own, preferably a restaurant, coffee house or a showroom. And get married to girl of my choice.
And they're just not complying.
They want me to get any job, no matter how menial it is, and get married to the girl of their choice and remain in the joint family.
And i don't want to study or prepare for any competitive exam. I don't feel like. I just don't see the point.
And I'm never getting any decent job now. And since it's not decent, I don't want it. Ego problem. Besides, I legit will make more money in business. No rent / No loan. I intend to do it on my own piece of land, without any loan.
And I'm not capable of these new age hi fi edu startups and Zuckerberg type of stuff. I'm old school.
I feel so lonely and not respected and not heard among my family members and relatives that I'm compelled to live as a tenant in this room in ORN under the guise of IAS prep. Don't know for how long can it continue.
All my love for my family is dead.
To this day, I'm not in talking terms with one of my real sisters for reasons best left unsaid. It's been years.
I despise the family of my aunt and her sons (like mother like sons) to the core, for abetting dad's suicide. Been a nightmare to see that lady and her sons everyday, more so, when I see no change in their behaviour pre dad and post dad.
I wonder if they feel guilty at night. I wonder if the word shame exists in their head.
My cousin(her son) went to Melbourne and I didn't even feel like meeting him 'fore he left. (Lot of my distant family and relatives are in Melbourne.)
And yeah, our own tenant, over a decade ago, bullied me like crazy, and family was more concerned about the rent than me.
Self confidence took a massive jolt and began stammering. College went disaster.
I shall fall asleep now.
P. S. - No bashing at me, please! Yes, I'm a loser and I don't want to get out of it. Some people find more comfort in pain than pleasure. Go read that Secure compilation, do answer writing practice, and hone your optional!
Dost. I can feel what situation and emotions you are under. Believe me i have faced such similar situation. I can sense that you are a tough and courageous guy. If you don't want to prepare for this stupid exam, why are you wasting your time. If you feel like starting a business (yes. that old school type) what are you waiting for? This is the age to experiment if any. This is the age to try hard and fulfill your "real" dreams than to please someone else. Waise bhi the hard truth is 99.99% are here to fail in this exam.
I have an advice. Those who wish to share their feelings, emotions, any incident or any thing that they cannot share openly in public can make a new profile and write anything that they want and keep that profile for the purpose of this writing only. This advice is for those who feel hesitant in writing with their known profiles.
Instead of thanking me for this advice, just do me a favour. Please Keep writing till October
I feel so out of place among my own family of origin and relatives that I no longer identify myself with them.
I won't shed a tear for them.
I want to get separated from our joint family, and shift to Delhi /Gurugram permanently, with my mum, and have an old school business of my own, preferably a restaurant, coffee house or a showroom. And get married to girl of my choice.
And they're just not complying.
They want me to get any job, no matter how menial it is, and get married to the girl of their choice and remain in the joint family.
And i don't want to study or prepare for any competitive exam. I don't feel like. I just don't see the point.
And I'm never getting any decent job now. And since it's not decent, I don't want it. Ego problem. Besides, I legit will make more money in business. No rent / No loan. I intend to do it on my own piece of land, without any loan.
And I'm not capable of these new age hi fi edu startups and Zuckerberg type of stuff. I'm old school.
I feel so lonely and not respected and not heard among my family members and relatives that I'm compelled to live as a tenant in this room in ORN under the guise of IAS prep. Don't know for how long can it continue.
All my love for my family is dead.
To this day, I'm not in talking terms with one of my real sisters for reasons best left unsaid. It's been years.
I despise the family of my aunt and her sons (like mother like sons) to the core, for abetting dad's suicide. Been a nightmare to see that lady and her sons everyday, more so, when I see no change in their behaviour pre dad and post dad.
I wonder if they feel guilty at night. I wonder if the word shame exists in their head.
My cousin(her son) went to Melbourne and I didn't even feel like meeting him 'fore he left. (Lot of my distant family and relatives are in Melbourne.)
And yeah, our own tenant, over a decade ago, bullied me like crazy, and family was more concerned about the rent than me.
Self confidence took a massive jolt and began stammering. College went disaster.
I shall fall asleep now.
P. S. - No bashing at me, please! Yes, I'm a loser and I don't want to get out of it. Some people find more comfort in pain than pleasure. Go read that Secure compilation, do answer writing practice, and hone your optional!
brother.... ur much more courageous than u sound here... i can guarantee that.... have faith in ur self .. and if u actually want to be happy.. chase ur dreams at any cost ... not some one else.. love from another struggling aspirant
I feel so out of place among my own family of origin and relatives that I no longer identify myself with them.
I won't shed a tear for them.
I want to get separated from our joint family, and shift to Delhi /Gurugram permanently, with my mum, and have an old school business of my own, preferably a restaurant, coffee house or a showroom. And get married to girl of my choice.
And they're just not complying.
They want me to get any job, no matter how menial it is, and get married to the girl of their choice and remain in the joint family.
And i don't want to study or prepare for any competitive exam. I don't feel like. I just don't see the point.
And I'm never getting any decent job now. And since it's not decent, I don't want it. Ego problem. Besides, I legit will make more money in business. No rent / No loan. I intend to do it on my own piece of land, without any loan.
And I'm not capable of these new age hi fi edu startups and Zuckerberg type of stuff. I'm old school.
I feel so lonely and not respected and not heard among my family members and relatives that I'm compelled to live as a tenant in this room in ORN under the guise of IAS prep. Don't know for how long can it continue.
All my love for my family is dead.
To this day, I'm not in talking terms with one of my real sisters for reasons best left unsaid. It's been years.
I despise the family of my aunt and her sons (like mother like sons) to the core, for abetting dad's suicide. Been a nightmare to see that lady and her sons everyday, more so, when I see no change in their behaviour pre dad and post dad.
I wonder if they feel guilty at night. I wonder if the word shame exists in their head.
My cousin(her son) went to Melbourne and I didn't even feel like meeting him 'fore he left. (Lot of my distant family and relatives are in Melbourne.)
And yeah, our own tenant, over a decade ago, bullied me like crazy, and family was more concerned about the rent than me.
Self confidence took a massive jolt and began stammering. College went disaster.
I shall fall asleep now.
P. S. - No bashing at me, please! Yes, I'm a loser and I don't want to get out of it. Some people find more comfort in pain than pleasure. Go read that Secure compilation, do answer writing practice, and hone your optional!
Dost. I can feel what situation and emotions you are under. Believe me i have faced such similar situation. I can sense that you are a tough and courageous guy. If you don't want to prepare for this stupid exam, why are you wasting your time. If you feel like starting a business (yes. that old school type) what are you waiting for? This is the age to experiment if any. This is the age to try hard and fulfill your "real" dreams than to please someone else. Waise bhi the hard truth is 99.99% are here to fail in this exam.
Waiting for the progress at their snail mail pace. They say that they're talking to few property consultants, and they're still talking.
Waise mujhe lagta hai ki asli wali feelings to private me hi likhne me nikalti hai
I have an advice. Those who wish to share their feelings, emotions, any incident or any thing that they cannot share openly in public can make a new profile and write anything that they want and keep that profile for the purpose of this writing only. This advice is for those who feel hesitant in writing with their known profiles.
Instead of thanking me for this advice, just do me a favour. Please Keep writing till October
Baat sahi hai. Iseeliye yeh advice di hai maine. Shayad kaam aa jaye..
@CitizenMonk Hi, What do you when you get hungry ? You go eat. Nobody brings food to you.
Who is going to solve the mess in your life ? You. Nobody is going to do it for you.
How do you solve your issues ? By the resources you currently have. Nobody is going to give you a penny.
Who matters the most in life ? Parents and siblings. Nobody is going to care about you like them.
Sometimes, our own ego is our biggest hurdle in life. You are capable of solving your issues, its your ego that's not letting you do so. Let me elaborate.
You want to set up a coffee shop or a restaurant or a showroom. I ask, why not a 5 star hotel or why not a small snacks corner ? Its your ego that's measuring things for you. Do not listen to your ego, instead listen to your mind. Its asking you to do things which are beyond your resources. But, Hey the good news is that what you are aiming is certainly not beyond your capabilities. If you do it the right way, trust me, not just one restaurant, you will have a chain of restaurants. You just need to earn more resources and you will be good to go in this life.
First thing first, if you are not interested to be a civil servant. There's no point writing this exam. Civil services are the means and not the end itself. Take an exit, no point wasting your precious youth. Life is much more than just a job.
Here's what you need to. 1. Take an exit from this exam, but tell it to nobody. Let your relatives think you are stuck here. 2. Count your resources. 1/10th of your resource will be your investment capital. 3. Choose a business that can sustain the life you and your family. For a start, you should be earning around 35k or more. 4. Invest in small things, Invest in quality stuff, Invest in Affordable products, Invest in heavy demand domain. You will need to keep balancing these four things by making a trade off according to the sentiments in the market. Once you get a hang of these four things, you will start making profit. 5. Once you start making profit, take risks(along with insurance). Expand your domain aggressively. The main criteria is meeting the consumer demands. You will soon have enough resources in two or three years. Only then can you set up your own coffee shop or restaurant or showroom. Setting up your business by your own blood and sweat is the sweetest thing you will ever taste in life, trust me. There's nothing like that experience. Once you stand up on your own feet firmly, you can dictate terms in your life, and by god's grace if you make big, you will also dictate terms of your relatives lives also.
Summary, Get rid of your relatives dependency. Count the cash. Exit this exam. Get into the market. Mint money. Live your life.
What kind of business then? Let me share a few examples. Mango season : India is such a huge country - The demand for mango is immense during the season, people yearn for quality mangoes. You would be surprised to know the variety of mangoes that are available from north till the south. Research about them, go taste them, look at their quality, strike a deal with the farmers directly and make it available in a small store in your locality or in a crowded market. Variety of mangoes, quality, price is the way you are going to attract consumers. Market it online using social media. If you do all the things right, there's no reason why you cant sustain yourself on this. Exotic fruits : There's huge demand for south east asian tropical fruits in urban cities of India. Research about them. Similarly there's demand for protein rich food, organic veggies and fruits, quality dairy products or anything that sells on a daily basis. All you need to do is buy them cheap and sell them at a marginal profit. Key to large profit is the number of sales and not the high selling price.
Go out there, look around your locality. Visit all the categories of shop. Look at what they are selling. Make a list of all such small activities. Talk to them, understand their process and profits. Think how to invest in them. Get a guy or two from your village, give them jobs, let them assist you in your business.
If you keenly observe, there's lot you can do in small things in a big way.
I wish you all the best, take this as an opportunity to wriggle free from the clutches of your relatives. Make auntyji proud of you. Make sure to post the pictures of your restaurant here on the forum in a year or two, and with a discount for the members. Take care! You will win.
I accompanied him to the temple today, the one he visits daily. It's a quaint and secluded little place, untouched by the hustle and bustle of the city, located near a rivulet that chirps only during the monsoon and surrounded by lush green trees that keep it kind of invisible.
He had a slight difficulty getting off the motorcycle, something I hadn't noticed before. After I parked close by, I caught up to him and walked a few paces behind him. The bald patch on his head was more prominent than I ever remember it being, as were the number of grays that partially covered it up. As he descended the steps of the temple he held the side-railing for support, the first time I've seen him do it. There was a discernible hobble in his gait as he meandered around the temple premise, a little slower than usual.
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lets fly away from here....
till mains...
brother.... ur much more courageous than u sound here... i can guarantee that.... have faith in ur self .. and if u actually want to be happy.. chase ur dreams at any cost ... not some one else..
love from another struggling aspirant
This advice is for those who feel hesitant in writing with their known profiles.
Instead of thanking me for this advice, just do me a favour. Please Keep writing till October
Hi,
What do you when you get hungry ?
You go eat. Nobody brings food to you.
Who is going to solve the mess in your life ?
You. Nobody is going to do it for you.
How do you solve your issues ?
By the resources you currently have. Nobody is going to give you a penny.
Who matters the most in life ?
Parents and siblings. Nobody is going to care about you like them.
Sometimes, our own ego is our biggest hurdle in life. You are capable of solving your issues, its your ego that's not letting you do so. Let me elaborate.
You want to set up a coffee shop or a restaurant or a showroom.
I ask, why not a 5 star hotel or why not a small snacks corner ?
Its your ego that's measuring things for you. Do not listen to your ego, instead listen to your mind. Its asking you to do things which are beyond your resources. But, Hey the good news is that what you are aiming is certainly not beyond your capabilities. If you do it the right way, trust me, not just one restaurant, you will have a chain of restaurants. You just need to earn more resources and you will be good to go in this life.
First thing first, if you are not interested to be a civil servant. There's no point writing this exam. Civil services are the means and not the end itself.
Take an exit, no point wasting your precious youth. Life is much more than just a job.
Here's what you need to.
1. Take an exit from this exam, but tell it to nobody. Let your relatives think you are stuck here.
2. Count your resources. 1/10th of your resource will be your investment capital.
3. Choose a business that can sustain the life you and your family. For a start, you should be earning around 35k or more.
4. Invest in small things, Invest in quality stuff, Invest in Affordable products, Invest in heavy demand domain. You will need to keep balancing these four things by making a trade off according to the sentiments in the market. Once you get a hang of these four things, you will start making profit.
5. Once you start making profit, take risks(along with insurance). Expand your domain aggressively. The main criteria is meeting the consumer demands. You will soon have enough resources in two or three years. Only then can you set up your own coffee shop or restaurant or showroom. Setting up your business by your own blood and sweat is the sweetest thing you will ever taste in life, trust me. There's nothing like that experience. Once you stand up on your own feet firmly, you can dictate terms in your life, and by god's grace if you make big, you will also dictate terms of your relatives lives also.
Summary,
Get rid of your relatives dependency. Count the cash. Exit this exam. Get into the market. Mint money. Live your life.
What kind of business then? Let me share a few examples.
Mango season : India is such a huge country - The demand for mango is immense during the season, people yearn for quality mangoes. You would be surprised to know the variety of mangoes that are available from north till the south. Research about them, go taste them, look at their quality, strike a deal with the farmers directly and make it available in a small store in your locality or in a crowded market. Variety of mangoes, quality, price is the way you are going to attract consumers. Market it online using social media. If you do all the things right, there's no reason why you cant sustain yourself on this.
Exotic fruits : There's huge demand for south east asian tropical fruits in urban cities of India. Research about them.
Similarly there's demand for protein rich food, organic veggies and fruits, quality dairy products or anything that sells on a daily basis. All you need to do is buy them cheap and sell them at a marginal profit. Key to large profit is the number of sales and not the high selling price.
Go out there, look around your locality. Visit all the categories of shop. Look at what they are selling. Make a list of all such small activities. Talk to them, understand their process and profits. Think how to invest in them. Get a guy or two from your village, give them jobs, let them assist you in your business.
If you keenly observe, there's lot you can do in small things in a big way.
I wish you all the best, take this as an opportunity to wriggle free from the clutches of your relatives. Make auntyji proud of you.
Make sure to post the pictures of your restaurant here on the forum in a year or two, and with a discount for the members.
Take care! You will win.
He had a slight difficulty getting off the motorcycle, something I hadn't noticed before. After I parked close by, I caught up to him and walked a few paces behind him. The bald patch on his head was more prominent than I ever remember it being, as were the number of grays that partially covered it up. As he descended the steps of the temple he held the side-railing for support, the first time I've seen him do it. There was a discernible hobble in his gait as he meandered around the temple premise, a little slower than usual.
I prayed. And then we headed back.