I know it is easy to feel disheartened, anguish over the failure. i felt the very same way(2013 and 2014 attempt) i turned an alcoholic after my second consecutive failure in prelims 2014. but soon realised this is not how i go down. i am here to win and if i don't i will go down fighting not like some jerk blaming xyz for the failure.
the most imp thing you have to realise is "this is not the end of the world". invest your time in other ventures. take up some job, higher education. if all fails open a damn coaching institute.
you have to look for the reasons why you failed. i did and you know what i found out?
1. i used to pick up the books read few paragraphs and then used to daydream about how i will act if i become an IFS/IAS.
2. i never read ncerts thoroughly in my first 2 attempts. yep this was the fact. i started to read a topic then say to myself this is too easy i know all about it, else will read it later. and believe me that later never came.
3.i took too much pressure and made clearing the exam an ego thing for myself. result - tension and frustration turned me into an alcoholic after my second failure.
but somehow i changed my orientation towards upsc and towards my career. this changed everything. the moment i said to myself this is not the end of life i have other avenues too. the study process became easy. it never felt like the burden anymore.
things i did right this time
1. read each ncert 7-10 thrice and 11-12 selected chapters twice at least along with the basic books.
2. gave the exam in a calm manner. fail or pass somehow did not matter. i enjoyed the examination hall, the atmosphere.
3. stopped daydreaming and focused more on reading and thinking than imagining stuff.
once again this is not the end of life. have faith in yourself and the sacrifices made by your loved ones to put you where you are currently. believe in your capabilities.
Man is sometimes extraordinarily, passionately, in love with suffering.