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Failed in UPSC 3 times. Wrote 1 mains. Failed in RBI,BPSC. Feeling dejected,rejected and soiled.

This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
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  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Parent?
  • Bhai lowest point ke niche to nhi hi jaoge ab yha se to kewal uper hi jana hai.
  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Bass itne mein hi haar mann gye.. ?? In raston se hazaro fail hue log aage badhkar success paye hai... utho.. aur chalo.. chalte raho jab tak successful na hojao.. aapse jyada thake hue logon ne karke dekhaya.. toh aap kyun nahi..!! Hosala rakho dost, kathinaiyon ka rasta aksar thaka deti hai logon ko, lekin jeetate wahi hai jo khade hokar aage badhte..

    It Isn't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward - rocky
  • edited September 2018
    Idk anything about you.
    All I can suggest is to have faith in yourself buddy. Just rationalise all the options in front of you and keep fighting. We don't have any choice but to fight back.
    Like they say - give up on me giving up.
    Maybe you should continue with upsc prep maybe not. I have no idea. That's your call.
    But you dreamed big. That tells me you're not a coward.
    So straighten up soldier
    And push beyond your limit.

    Take a break - if you're exhausted and dejected. But tomorrow (or when you've found that inner need) come back twice as strong.
    There is this amazing speech by Sylvester Stallone in Rocky - its not how hard you've been hit,, but it's much you can take and keep moving forward.
    Listen to it.

    Just remember -
    1) be rational - as in choose rational efficient means for your goals.
    2) don't give up on being huge.

    About that person dearest to you. If it's just a girl/boy. Don't worry about it. Sea is full of fish. And they'll all come running back to you once you win.
    If it's someone else and really close. I am sorry for you bro. Take a break. Give yourself some rest - 1day, 2, maybe a week. But that's it. Come back after that week. And fight back.
    All the best buddy.
  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Parent?
    Not parents... Gf. I can't blame her.. it's all my fault.last yr wrote mains.. but this year failed in pre of UPSC,RBI and now BPSC. No one can wait for infinite times specially when nothing seems to go right.
  • Bhai lowest point ke niche to nhi hi jaoge ab yha se to kewal uper hi jana hai.
    Bhai not even sure if it's the lowest..or worst is yet to come.
  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Bass itne mein hi haar mann gye.. ?? In raston se hazaro fail hue log aage badhkar success paye hai... utho.. aur chalo.. chalte raho jab tak successful na hojao.. aapse jyada thake hue logon ne karke dekhaya.. toh aap kyun nahi..!! Hosala rakho dost, kathinaiyon ka rasta aksar thaka deti hai logon ko, lekin jeetate wahi hai jo khade hokar aage badhte..

    It Isn't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward - rocky
    Yaar .. try karna to nhi chod sakta.. that's the only logical way to rectify past mistakes. But feeling low and depressed.
  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Bass itne mein hi haar mann gye.. ?? In raston se hazaro fail hue log aage badhkar success paye hai... utho.. aur chalo.. chalte raho jab tak successful na hojao.. aapse jyada thake hue logon ne karke dekhaya.. toh aap kyun nahi..!! Hosala rakho dost, kathinaiyon ka rasta aksar thaka deti hai logon ko, lekin jeetate wahi hai jo khade hokar aage badhte..

    It Isn't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward - rocky
    Yaar .. try karna to nhi chod sakta.. that's the only logical way to rectify past mistakes. But feeling low and depressed.
    Bro.. exam se dil lagao, result se dil mat lagao.. this is what i have learnt in this process.. mehnat karke faad do exam tak.. uske baad be cool.. if this exam won't teach you to be cool and handle presure.. nothing can.. learn to handle pressure.. lakhon log kar rhe hai yaar.. ek baar ORN aur patel nagar mein Ghumke dekho.. you need to learn that..!!

    Be in present.. feeling low and depressed wahi ho sakte hai jo past mein rehta hai aur jinke dimag mein future ki uncertainty ghumti hai.. present mein rehna sikho.. everything will be awesome... In the panic situation do not hit panic button of your mind, just have patience and be cool. You will be awesome.

  • Don't feel despondent for the real journey has only begun. As long as you have your parents beside you, anything can be conquered.
    I have had a break-up last month only in the first week of August. Wasted a lot of precious time mourning over the absolute nonsense when instead I could have been studying.
    Don't stress yourself too much over these petty, frivolous things. You have a lot to prove to yourself. Just get your shit together and start it all over again.

    Reminds me of the quote which kept me going in the tough times: "If you love somebody let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.

    So stop whinging and get on with your work.
    I know I might sound harsh here but nobody cares about your stupid breakup. People would only laugh at this poor excuse of yours.
    Don't give em a chance to mock you again.
    It's time to rise up like a Phoenix from the ashes.

    Abhi to party shuru hui h bhai.
  • This is the lowest point in life. I lost my confidence, self-respect and also about to loose the person dearest to me. Don't know how to standup from here and move forward...
    Parent?
    Not parents... Gf. I can't blame her.. it's all my fault.last yr wrote mains.. but this year failed in pre of UPSC,RBI and now BPSC. No one can wait for infinite times specially when nothing seems to go right.
    Gf?
    Oh really?
    Nibhani honi h jinna ne vo nibha hi lende aan ,,, todne di sochte nahi....(punjabi song)
    Get your priorities right.
    No one can wait it's true but those who do.,. Only they are worth ....
    I might sound hard but yes .., its true.
    Don't b childish ..
    Upsc has uncertainty no doubt.
    U have only two options get set and go for the dreams or set them free n let them go.
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