Dealing with Failure in the UPSC Civil Services Examination

adiguru

I failed in pre after 2 consecutive mains. it's not because I didn't work hard, rather I worked with lack of concentration!

I was not happy, due to my abnormal faltmate! Ofcourse he was my colg senior,but I got to know the real things slowly!

He was a womanizer( had multiple girls to satisfy his sexual hunger who visited him often) / alcoholic and over social creature( many friends and local acquaintances)! Literally he made his room in our 2 BHK a guesthouse ( on an avg every week one or more guests, his friends, relatives and girls( not gfs) visited, and more than 60-70 people visited in all total ) , every week more than once liquor party was organised!
It means his room became a bar cum brothel cum guesthouse.

These things indirectly lost my conc , so joined a lib studied there in day time!
Slowly started to booze very often but alone,
My smoking rate increased! I got admitted to hospital too for ill -health


Today I don't know, but I feel I m not doing justice to me by wasting one precious year / time/ parents money! As he is still d same after his failure consecutively, day before yesterday he brought call girls and yesterday too, which forced me to leave and spend the night at a friend's place!

Literally frnds don't u think, that ur ambience is of utmost importance for u?


I think guys there is a difference b/ w happily preparing and just preparing! Till now I have not conveyed my failure to my parents!
Father is diabetic with blood pressure problem! Mother is very sentimental!
They will be broken!


It was my story,And my failure is attributed to
Following reasons

bad ambience,( mahol)
Galat Sangati/
bad decision to choose a flat mate/
Being a'' yes man '' to a senior wid lil fear

I should learn to say NO at right time/ place/ for right reasons.

Lastly all d best for SSC/ RBI/ APFC/ STATE PCS/ GATE!and other competitive exams too!

same thing happened to me...this year in january..i met the most negative guy i have ever came across....he exploited my emotions and made my mindset negative..wasted my 3-4 months....i was warned by one of my friends,,whose attempt he wasted in 2013 to stay away from this guy..just after mains result,,he made me even more negative...when marks came and i failed in compulsory langauge after wonderful mains...he discouraged me..10 days before exam he told me" tum kuch bhi karo tumhara is saal nahi ho paega"...i am not blaming this person,,but only myself as failing pre in 4rth/5th attempt is not an excuse....he might himself be suffering from depression of mains 2014 failure...it is finaly only me who is responsible for almost ending of upsc journey with shameful failure..
so guys if anyone wants to succeed..learn to say no..i havent said this word..and i am out of this race forever

After reading this post I got reminded of my sex addiction. I slept with my ex girlfriend 5 days before her marriage. After 9 months , she had a baby girl. She says that the kid is mine. I had kinky episodes with 2 of my cooks. My centre for mains was UPSC. Even during mains last year , I would take a detour n go to GB road (as it is at walking distance from new delhi metro station) . Even on the day of giving interview I kept a shirt in my bag. After giving interview , I changed in toilet n came out. Again went there. I maintain a dairy of my sexual escapades. Thought that after encounter with 50 girls , I will stop. But , it did not happen. I am very normal in my day to day life. Nobody can have an iota of inkling that I do all this stuff. I am writing all this because I am anonymous. I saw an english film called shame few weeks back. The protagonist of the film was my alter ego. Thank God! I don't smoke or drink. Else , I would have died by now.

all hail!!

stuartLittle

I failed too. It was my 3rd attempt. Now 28. Was depressed. But now m going to attack upsc with thrice the force. Didnt study more than 6hrs earlier. Now decided to study 15hrs/day. Ready if i die studying. Dont wanna regret. Its my last attempt. Pls suggest/correct/advice where u wish to help me.
My plan-400 days to mains 2016.
1.40 days-Economics.
2. 40 days-Polity.
3. 40 days-Geo n environment.
4.40 days-Science(Starting from scratch)
5.40 days-Ancient India
6.40 days- medieval india plus culture.
7.40 days-Modern India.
8.40 days-world history and india aft independence
9.Ethics and all misc chapters from gs.
10.Current n essay.

Bro just focus on the reason of ur failure. Y did u failed and wt u missed which others did and get success. I also failed in very first attempt BT learned from it and gave interview in 2nd attempt. But again failed. Nw giving mains this year.(sorry if u flt m praising myself) U know y cz I learnt and focus on y I failed.
So plz just write down ur mistake and first remove them
Secondly make a feasible timetable according to need of upsc nt cz f ur need.
Its was ur third attempt and I am damn sure u have very good command over subjects but only thing missing is correct strategy.
Wt u r studying may b not the demand of upsc.
So plz pick previous year paper and find out the demand
Second read Hindu paper daily and note down important things.
Maintain a dairy of this thing and ur daily routine.
Even u study hardly may b it will not fetch u results. So study smartly.
It will show u result.

stuartLittle

And first clear pre then only u r able to write mains. So make plan which looks real not fake like this.
Practice mcqs of each subject
Write as many ans for mains

stuartLittle

6hrs more than enough if u study smartly. More hr study will not give u guarantee of success. So plz faith in urself and consult seniors or any person who knws u better and can tell u ur loopholes.

Vagaivel

After reading this post I got reminded of my sex addiction. I slept with my ex girlfriend 5 days before her marriage. After 9 months , she had a baby girl. She says that the kid is mine. I had kinky episodes with 2 of my cooks. My centre for mains was UPSC. Even during mains last year , I would take a detour n go to GB road (as it is at walking distance from new delhi metro station) . Even on the day of giving interview I kept a shirt in my bag. After giving interview , I changed in toilet n came out. Again went there. I maintain a dairy of my sexual escapades. Thought that after encounter with 50 girls , I will stop. But , it did not happen. I am very normal in my day to day life. Nobody can have an iota of inkling that I do all this stuff. I am writing all this because I am anonymous. I saw an english film called shame few weeks back. The protagonist of the film was my alter ego. Thank God! I don't smoke or drink. Else , I would have died by now.

It happens only because of rating civil services above one's normal emotions. We are all normal people who shall lead normal lives. If we think we are not able to have control on addictions, its better go to some normal job and get married and lead a normal life. What is the point in reaching a point , where we hate ourselves.

Sethji

अभी मसरूफ है तू भी अभी मसरूफ हूँ मैं भी|
चल आ मंजिल पे चलते हैं मुलाकातें वहीँ होंगी ||

theguyinallblue

I failed too. It was my 3rd attempt. Now 28. Was depressed. But now m going to attack upsc with thrice the force. Didnt study more than 6hrs earlier. Now decided to study 15hrs/day. Ready if i die studying. Dont wanna regret. Its my last attempt. Pls suggest/correct/advice where u wish to help me.
My plan-400 days to mains 2016.
1.40 days-Economics.
2. 40 days-Polity.
3. 40 days-Geo n environment.
4.40 days-Science(Starting from scratch)
5.40 days-Ancient India
6.40 days- medieval india plus culture.
7.40 days-Modern India.
8.40 days-world history and india aft independence
9.Ethics and all misc chapters from gs.
10.Current n essay.

@ immortan decisions made in Anger, Haste, Happiness , frustration..always comes back to bite in the ass....remember this..

40 days period is too lofty ...mai abhi se keh deta hun...NAHI HOGA...and 15 hours/DAY...???

Bhai.. come here after 7 days... and share your experience... i BET... you would not follow the routine the 3rd day itself...

make realistic goals..brother... just my opinion...No offence meant..

himanshu07

with passing of each day after pt failure,,the feeling had sinked in and harsh reality of not appearing for mains at this old age of 30 has appeared in the front of me......still cursing myself as only fault which i found out after contemplation is: pressing of panic button,,negative mindset ,depression and lethargy during those 2 hrs..uske alaawa kuch nahi,,absolutely no flaw in preparation

hamarisansad

Bhai..last timebhi budha me avanti mara tha is bar bhi wahi mara ...gktoday wala last year ka explanation yad tha ...salo ne avanti diya tha.....Cabinet mission me jyada dimag laga diya aur none mara....wrsterly me bhi none mara...ab isme koi fault nahi h....factual question par kabhi dhyan nahi deta tha kyonki upsc 2010 se puchna chhor diya tha....ap agle sal nobel prize sports puche to kya kaha jaye....puchne ko to yah bhi puchha ja sakta h ki kaun si machhli veg h....

gamma

this was my 3rd attempt and i did not clear. was damn serious this time .solved every tests on insights ,even joined test series but of no use. yaar i dont understand why am i failing. every time studies but what was the outcome. what should i do , cant now think