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Dealing with Failure in the UPSC Civil Services Examination

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  • saari infos galat ho gyi, India bhai hi sahi nikle end mein
    bhai mera 107 is closer than india's 102.. cut off is around 106
  • Writing this exam since 2011...wrote 2 consecutive mains....failed next 2 prelims...this year was in....left a lucrative job and a dream opportunity to higher studies ( if u guys know daad scholarship in Germany).... Had a turning point (love life) where i went against my family and I thought leaving full fledged studies and give tutions but my family supported me....thanks to them.....but I was prepared since then....ppl started doubting and pouring sympathies as if I can't do it...may b I still can't but I never needed their superficial sympathies....I cleared pre this time with a job n very less time to study....may b I won't clear mains or won't be able to make to final list.... But friends remember one thing, this is just an exam....100s of ppl become ias and similar number is and other services... Only few actually gain respect or r even contented with their lives...at the end of the day u shud have that feeling even when u fail..baaki duniya to bakwaas karegi aur wo aapke ias,ips ke baad bhi karegi...just b truthful to urself.... Civils is not the end of it dream leave alone ur life....atb for ur future endeavors even if that is not civils...atb...musa bhai ka Hi example dekh lo....I truely appreciate his endeavors.... Atb
    ...I too have been there n played the gamble many times...I can feel what u r right now
    I couldn't get through, your post really felt like a closure. Thanks for cheering me up and All the best for mains! :)
  • 3rd attemp still not clear pt of few margin...
    dont know what to do....
    kya karu.....
  • meri halat gambhir ho gai hai......saala college ke baad seedhe tyari mein 2 saal marvai....output zero ....private m ab koi 20 hazar ki job bhi ni dega n government m lg ni raha ki agle ek saal tk kahin hoga.....saare effort upsc m hi laga die the.....!!!...i was getting 108+ from vaji. but in assholes ki key bhi bekar thi .Feeling fucked....cursing the day when i decided to prepare for this exam..... aim of the life was to serve nation,help poor n women empowerment that's why i decided..but ab to apne survival k lalle pad gae hai.Girlfriend ne chod dia....fb band kr di coz friends ghumne ki pics daalte hai,bars ki,class k lulu bacche bhi foreign m job karr rahe hai....whatsapp pr do do din tak kisi k msg ni aate......100 ruppe ka balane mahine bhar chal jata hai....this shows my social life....ghrwalo k paisso pr parasite feel karta hun.....n worst part is this wo mujhe ab bhi support kar rahe hai....ki koi baat nahi......baap achi post pr hai to rishtetdaar daang marke rakhte hai expectation se...choti moti job bhi ni kar sakta..... !!
    Kya karun mera ab to humanity se wishwas hi uth gaya.....jo log selfish the, they are happy....enjoying there life with every sensual pleasure.....they never bother about country n parents ...emotionless n they are happy....n look at me i tried to fulfill my parents dream i m suffering... :((
    hahaha.... bas 2 saal me hil gaye?? never lose hope.. ye bas words ya ghisi piti line nhi maa raha hu mai.. hope nhi to life becomes aimless.. you are not a parasite for living off of your parents money... jab job lagegi to kisne roka hai tumhe unhe sukh dene se?? tab karna tum..abhi bas padho.. khoob ratte maaro.. koi ngo join karlo taki real life dekh sako...relax
    Thanks @Musa_Ka_Gul bhai....maine tumhare experience paddhe the....unke samne to ye kuch bhi nahi hai.Best thing about you is ki tumhara selection ho gya hai n fir bhi tum iss thread pr hume motivate kar rahe ho.... ^:)^
  • saari infos galat ho gyi, India bhai hi sahi nikle end mein
    bhai mera 107 is closer than india's 102.. cut off is around 106
    ho sakta hai, mera to max 102 tha aur main 95 ki ummeed kar rha tha :D
  • ja raha hoon subah subahh Kolkata...ghar me raha to marr Hi na Jaun..
  • @all
    meri halat gambhir ho gai hai......saala college ke baad seedhe tyari mein 2 saal marvai....output zero ....private m ab koi 20 hazar ki job bhi ni dega n government m lg ni raha ki agle ek saal tk kahin hoga.....saare effort upsc m hi laga die the.....!!!...i was getting 108+ from vaji. but in assholes ki key bhi bekar thi .Feeling fucked....cursing the day when i decided to prepare for this exam..... aim of the life was to serve nation,help poor n women empowerment that's why i decided..but ab to apne survival k lalle pad gae hai.Girlfriend ne chod dia....fb band kr di coz friends ghumne ki pics daalte hai,bars ki,class k lulu bacche bhi foreign m job karr rahe hai....whatsapp pr do do din tak kisi k msg ni aate......100 ruppe ka balane mahine bhar chal jata hai....this shows my social life....ghrwalo k paisso pr parasite feel karta hun.....n worst part is this wo mujhe ab bhi support kar rahe hai....ki koi baat nahi......baap achi post pr hai to rishtetdaar daang marke rakhte hai expectation se...choti moti job bhi ni kar sakta..... !!
    Kya karun mera ab to humanity se wishwas hi uth gaya.....jo log selfish the, they are happy....enjoying there life with every sensual pleasure.....they never bother about country n parents ...emotionless n they are happy....n look at me i tried to fulfill my parents dream i m suffering... :((
    You had the balls to do what you did. Others did not. And remember, the grass is always greener on the other side. Go outside, workout in the morning, join a library for studies and limited amount of social life.. Find a gf.. Who is stopping you? We are all limited by our thoughts, not capacity.
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    Writicovils s exam since 2011...wrote 2 consecutive mains....failed next 2 prelims...this year was in....left a lucrative job and a dream opportunity to higher studies ( if u guys know daad scholarship in Germany).... Had a turning point (love life) where i went against my family and I thought leaving full fledged studies and give tutions but my family supported me....thanks to them.....but I was prepared since then....ppl started doubting and pouring sympathies as if I can't do it...may b I still can't but I never needed their superficial sympathies....I cleared pre this time with a job n very less time to study....may b I won't clear mains or won't be able to make to final list.... But friends remember one thing, this is just an exam....100s of ppl become ias and similar number is and other services... Only few actually gain respect or r even contented with their lives...at the end of the day u shud have that feeling even when u fail..baaki duniya to bakwaas karegi aur wo aapke ias,ips ke baad bhi karegi...just b truthful to urself.... Civils is not the end of it dream leave alone ur life....atb for ur future endeavors even if that is not civils...atb...musa bhai ka Hi example dekh lo....I truely appreciate his endeavors.... Atb
    ...I too have been there n played the gamble many times...I can feel what u r right now
    bhai this is correct that civils is not everything and even 10-20% IAS leave their job for various reasons.

    But please enlighten what else can be done? and how to start that when anyone has no job experience before with 4 year of gap after graduation.

    Bhai there can be no generalised answers on wat can be done...but depending on ur background there r many things u can do...one option u r well aware of and I believe u r doing it and will continue doing it..continue ur preparation... If u r in a situation of financial emergency luk side by side for an alterative job...'chhoti badi kuch bhi chalegi as long as u r able to meet the days end...coaching,tuitions or some low profile govt. job....dun b shy and take it as a step...dun b emaraased ki I was preparing for civils and so how can I take it....be modest and yet aspire high...kaisi job hogi tat depends on wat ur academic background is and seriously give few days for tat....agar financial issues nahi hai to mast prepare karo....
  • @phoenix08 bahut baari confirm karvaya tune 97, jaalim insaan umeed jaga di faaltu mein :D
  • Second attempt and once again failed to clear even pre. Got around 165 combined last year and was expecting 98 this time, and was just hoping to sale through somehow. Totally devastated and not sure if it is worthwhile to go in for another attempt.

    Age 24, 1.5 yrs of corporate experience.

    Cleared CDS 2, 2014 (OTA) and waiting for SSB, Allahabad (wont be eligible for another attempt)
    Cleared SSC tier 1 2015, really doubt if I can make it through tier 2
    CAPF results pending (again hoping to just sail through - wont be eligible next year)
    MPPSC - Hard to keep this as a fallback option, bloody losers take ages to give final postings.

    Failed IBPS and SBI and all Insurance AO papers once. Never prepared for even once minute for any of these and not sure if it is a good idea to leave UPSC for sometime and prepare for one of these seriously?

    To be completely honest with myself, I know I did not give even my 50%, let alone 100%..but then again I really dont know if I can give 100% concentration, I know for a fact that I am not able to put in the required hours (god knows why!).

    If someone is in a similar situation, please give me some suggestions as to what to do ? I am really scared to sit back at home for another year and prepare, but I also know that UPSC wont happen with a full time job. Need some time-pass job to calm down the family and take my time with UPSC.

    Any help, would really be appreciated.
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