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Feeling alone.Need some friend

I am fed up with continuous study.Need some good friend for outing,talk,tea,etc
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  • Take a break for one month and enjoy like its last month of your life. Then come back and work hard.
    PSIR
  • Take a break for one month and enjoy like its last month of your life. Then come back and work hard.

    Chatur spotted.
    爱屋及乌
  • sspol said:

    I am fed up with continuous study.Need some good friend for outing,talk,tea,etc

    2 June ke Baad le Lena break
  • sss123 said:

    sspol said:

    I am fed up with continuous study.Need some good friend for outing,talk,tea,etc

    2 June ke Baad le Lena break
    1 ghante ka
    爱屋及乌
  • sspol said:

    I am fed up with continuous study.Need some good friend for outing,talk,tea,etc

    Sad reality of UPSC preparation. Its a low point, most of us face this, get in touch with your buddies from school/college/job or try to make new (difficult though but libraries in ORN can be of some help).
    रहो धर्म में धीर, रहो कर्म में वीर
    रखो उन्नत शिर,डरो ना |

    अलविदा Forum. It was a privilege to be here.
  • i m alone 15 years still never got frustated dont know why new people cant cope with stress may be they are born with frustated genetic material transferred by frustated parents
  • i m alone 15 years still never got frustated dont know why new people cant cope with stress may be they are born with frustated genetic material transferred by frustated parents

    brother, don't be so rude. Nothing about new and old aspirant. In fact new people will be very energetic for 1-2 years in this preparation, low points in preparation phase comes generally after that only.
    रहो धर्म में धीर, रहो कर्म में वीर
    रखो उन्नत शिर,डरो ना |

    अलविदा Forum. It was a privilege to be here.
  • i m alone 15 years still never got frustated dont know why new people cant cope with stress may be they are born with frustated genetic material transferred by frustated parents

    I hope you don't get a job that needs frequent public interactions and for the public at large!
  • i m alone 15 years still never got frustated dont know why new people cant cope with stress may be they are born with frustated genetic material transferred by frustated parents

    Amen! May god give you peace
  • Don't search online. Go to library, will break your monotony - you will see some people and maybe make friends.

    I talk to my parents often. Do talk and listen to them, helps them and you too.
    2017,2018 : P+M.
    Anthropology
  • edited March 14
    Phagocyte said:

    Don't search online. Go to library, will break your monotony - you will see some people and maybe make friends.

    I talk to my parents often. Do talk and listen to them, helps them and you too.

    why people like u think that some solutions are universal... really ?? arents ... really ???

    see it is extreamly futile to talk to ur biological family members, if they do not believe in your dream of cse... since these people are considered a trusted voice by our brain.... our brain do not process or judge their words... it takes them stright to subconscious and start believing in them...
    they have so much of conviction and trust in their words that ...hamse naa ho pae ga,,,ias banana halwa hai kya... ki hamlog ko bhi vishwaas hojega...
    so if ur parents or elder sibling keeps teling u that "U WILL NOT CLEAR CSE" then our mind also trulely starts believing in this.....
    they will keep sugesting to do some job or business so that they can marry u and their job is done.. or may be any other reason they feel deemed right... . no matter if u do not know the girl...
    with age and having married elder brother... property and money matters also stars developing... which developes rifft and distrusst among everyone... they forms ghetos of husband and wife...then person like us are left totally alone by the people who were always their around u from childhood...

    this is sam case for me,,,,

    in forum also it is told that during cse prepration we do friendship only based on our study needs... nothing else ... means during pre ... pre wale friends... then for mains mains wale friends, and move on from who are not up for the mains...and then for PT make new "friends" and totally drop those who are not giving PT...
    their no friendships like true or healthy ones as we used to have in childhood.... or in graduation...

    all these things and many more leave people like us totally alone and vulnurable to negative emotions like anger, irritaion, lonlyness...and many more...

    what to say... people like us mean who fail in any stage of cse...
  • @Gamely sorry yaar account banate samay tumhara hi koi post dekhe aur fir ye id ban gaya :#
    but if u want i can gift u this id...as it is - gamely ke liye ... :naughty:
  • go alone for outings. friends should only be for talks and gossips. go soon. don't postpone. even a week off is enough
  • edited March 15

    Phagocyte said:

    Don't search online. Go to library, will break your monotony - you will see some people and maybe make friends.

    I talk to my parents often. Do talk and listen to them, helps them and you too.

    why people like u think that some solutions are universal... really ?? arents ... really ???

    see it is extreamly futile to talk to ur biological family members, if they do not believe in your dream of cse... since these people are considered a trusted voice by our brain.... our brain do not process or judge their words... it takes them stright to subconscious and start believing in them...
    they have so much of conviction and trust in their words that ...hamse naa ho pae ga,,,ias banana halwa hai kya... ki hamlog ko bhi vishwaas hojega...
    so if ur parents or elder sibling keeps teling u that "U WILL NOT CLEAR CSE" then our mind also trulely starts believing in this.....
    they will keep sugesting to do some job or business so that they can marry u and their job is done.. or may be any other reason they feel deemed right... . no matter if u do not know the girl...
    with age and having married elder brother... property and money matters also stars developing... which developes rifft and distrusst among everyone... they forms ghetos of husband and wife...then person like us are left totally alone by the people who were always their around u from childhood...

    this is sam case for me,,,,

    in forum also it is told that during cse prepration we do friendship only based on our study needs... nothing else ... means during pre ... pre wale friends... then for mains mains wale friends, and move on from who are not up for the mains...and then for PT make new "friends" and totally drop those who are not giving PT...
    their no friendships like true or healthy ones as we used to have in childhood.... or in graduation...

    all these things and many more leave people like us totally alone and vulnurable to negative emotions like anger, irritaion, lonlyness...and many more...

    what to say... people like us mean who fail in any stage of cse...
    here anyone plz do not missunderstand that i am saying bad... i understand its their perspective ... and i respect that... this happens in most of the house...
    but i feel i also must trust my dreams , may be sometimes , if not always.. thats why..

    as we grow up and crosses our 20s we go into red zone and things becomes harder , with each passing day... so here fault is of me alony... as why not samay rahate i worked harder....

    and the words from forum... i feel it was the best advice a coach can give... thoughroly goal oriented/// and those who fail this type of professionalism fail to clear cse... many from the time i first started cse prep...where their who cleared many stages of cse exam , but fail to get into list....many of them cleared state psc, rbi, went abroad to study and many such things, but not the cse...

    their is a saying beggers cant be choosers ... this is true for old cse aspirants... we may say ,age acts like a bitch ...

    2-3 days ago i cleared my fb friendlist ...i de-friended around 600 of them... now persons frm my very past life are their and it feels good to see their posts... from many years i was totally surrouned by cse related activity only... now it was becoming taxing.. thank god not any more...
  • for older persons... or those who think they are getting older...

    kya pachtawat hoot, jab chiriyaan chug gai khet...

    sacrifice and work harder now to build ur future...

    .... as always it is said, people will invest in you only if future prospects of ur stock is that of a bull...
    even i do not like to invest in a bear stock...
    so how can i complain about others !!

  • my name really looks weired :smirk:
    :sweat_smile:
  • man... hindu has become of 12 rs :open_mouth:
  • ye south indians ka dill bhi unke ghar jaisa hota hai ....ekdam khali
  • yahan koi aata jata nahi hai kya ??

    ye bhutiya ghar thread hai kya ?
  • i have not filled the cse form yet... its the case of exausted... no josh wale types se...

    can anyone motivate me enough so that atleast i can fill the form...

    i am not depressed... its just averson for civils :(

    why do not we know future...
  • i have not filled the cse form yet... its the case of exausted... no josh wale types se...

    can anyone motivate me enough so that atleast i can fill the form...

    i am not depressed... its just averson for civils :(

    why do not we know future...

    Don't fill it this year......go to Dharamshala for 6months then start preparing again
    :)
  • @gamelykeliye i never said my solution is universal. I've been through times of loneliness, depression. Just gave my experience if what helped me. I'm sure the threat creator can choose whatever fits his case.

    Sorry to know your family isn't supportive. And yes.. i agree, we don't build unconditional relationships anymore. Sad reality of growing up maybe.
    2017,2018 : P+M.
    Anthropology
  • ye south indians ka dill bhi unke ghar jaisa hota hai ....ekdam khali

    Haha. This came out of nowhere. Kya hua bhai
    2017,2018 : P+M.
    Anthropology
  • Vagarant said:

    i have not filled the cse form yet... its the case of exausted... no josh wale types se...

    can anyone motivate me enough so that atleast i can fill the form...

    i am not depressed... its just averson for civils :(

    why do not we know future...

    Don't fill it this year......go to Dharamshala for 6months then start preparing again
    0fficially speaking, 2019 is my last attemt to cse... i have exausted all of it
  • Phagocyte said:

    @gamelykeliye i never said my solution is universal. I've been through times of loneliness, depression. Just gave my experience if what helped me. I'm sure the threat creator can choose whatever fits his case.

    Sorry to know your family isn't supportive. And yes.. i agree, we don't build unconditional relationships anymore. Sad reality of growing up maybe.

    it is not their fault... this is what wea ll have learnt from socialisation...
    just see the eg of most of mothers who are housewife... their is no value of their work...because she does not earn anything in monetary terms...
    so after an age...say 24-25... if we do not earn money then this is what happens with everyone.
    so i feel its my fault only...
    hamko to lagta hai ki ham larka hain issiliye abhi tak sirf log gussa kar tana marte hain...and noone trusts me ... agar larki hote to shadi ho gai hoti kahin aur ham gobar thapte rahate..

    noone supports me of trusts me emotionally... just see anyone who is earning...most of the people trust them...

    all these are just observations... i may be wrong
  • Phagocyte said:

    ye south indians ka dill bhi unke ghar jaisa hota hai ....ekdam khali

    Haha. This came out of nowhere. Kya hua bhai
    as always .. jaisa hota hai... a girl from south left me and married within few months , with a boy who was earning and was in training with her.. ye sab rishton ka chakkar kuch mahinon me hibadal jata hai...
    money and stability matters ... i second it
  • edited March 15

    Vagarant said:

    i have not filled the cse form yet... its the case of exausted... no josh wale types se...

    can anyone motivate me enough so that atleast i can fill the form...

    i am not depressed... its just averson for civils :(

    why do not we know future...

    Don't fill it this year......go to Dharamshala for 6months then start preparing again
    0fficially speaking, 2019 is my last attemt to cse... i have exausted all of it
    Good luck bhai, I hope you make it this time.
    Officially, for me it'll be my 2nd and last attempt as well.
    Nhi hua toh CGL leke babugiri krunga aur Bharat darshan pe Nikal jaunga khud hi... I don't find it's worth to lose your youth in this gamble where I have only 40% seats to compete. (Ye 2nd line k Baad wala is applicable to me only , aur kisi k liye nhi kaha me so please koi b apne upar na le isko, dhnyawad)
    :)
  • how some people fine someone who unconditionally trust them and their dreams also...that too truely... they just say u can disturb me whenever u want/need... blessed are those people who find sush friends...

    what are the circumstances that make someone believe someone else...
    aakhir aisa kya hota hai unlogon me jo akele nahi parte
  • Vagarant said:

    Vagarant said:

    i have not filled the cse form yet... its the case of exausted... no josh wale types se...

    can anyone motivate me enough so that atleast i can fill the form...

    i am not depressed... its just averson for civils :(

    why do not we know future...

    Don't fill it this year......go to Dharamshala for 6months then start preparing again
    0fficially speaking, 2019 is my last attemt to cse... i have exausted all of it
    Good luck bhai, I hope you make it this time.
    Officially, for me it'll be my 2nd and last attempt as well.
    Nhi hua toh CGL leke babugiri krunga aur Bharat darshan pe Nikal jaunga khud hi... I don't find it's worth to lose your youth in this gamble where I have only 40% seats to compete. (Ye 2nd line k Baad wala is applicable to me only , aur kisi k liye nhi kaha me so please koi b apne upar na le isko, dhnyawad)
    thanks for kind words...

    but i have totally lost the believe that i can clear cse... and this is last attempt also...my papa has turned 79.. but he is not dependent on me yet..

    i have thought of doing some work related to food of humans or farming ... will se what to do... may be food processing... will start soon...may be officially getting thrown out of cse process on 2nd june...
  • sspol said:

    I am fed up with continuous study.Need some good friend for outing,talk,tea,etc

    What happened to the friends you made since childhood ?? And your siblings - both in your first family and extended family ??

    Or this is just a pickup thread ??
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