Hello guys,
I am engineering graduate of 2012 batch from a tier 1 institute. After graduation I worked for a couple of years and entered into civils preparation from 2014. I have appeared for civils 4 times and failed to qualify mains every time.
Finally this year I joined a PSB and decided to take some time off. I was hoping that this break would rejuvenate me. But a few events have transpired that have made me a bit more depressed and distracted me.
During the training period I got attracted to one of my batchmates. She was in my presentation group and we interacted quite a lot. We even went out on a couple of occasions for normal dinner. We have both been allotted different branches but are in the same station. We even met a couple of times after being allocated branches. During all our interactions I have tried to drop her hints of being attracted to her, but have been unable to understand if she really took them. Finally last week I conveyed my feelings to her over watsapp. But her reaction was that she had never thought about me in that manner.
Since then I have had no communication with her, but inside me I want to talk to her. Majority of times I end up fantasizing situations if I would had done things differently. This is impacting my health as I have started to smoke and drink heavily. Also I have been unable to focus on my studies even a single bit.
It would be great if someone here could guide me how to overcome this obsession. Should I meet that girl once and clear up all the things or should I just ignore her. If ignore, then kindly suggest how as well since it is very difficult for me to forget her.
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Ek Se badh kar ek Haseenaayein hain yaar samaaj mein. Beauty with brains bhi hain kuch toh.
Kabhi bhi ek ke peeche Baawlaa Bhoot NAHI hona bhai.
Agar is saal exam de rahe ho toh Prelims par thoda dhyaan laga do bhai. Kyonki Prelims mein is saal hadd se zyaada competition hai.
Aur agar is saal Exam NAHI de rahe ho aap toh bhi Usko Ignore maaro..
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Dont be beta , invest time in understanding TRP (link shared above) when free
My two bits, apart from what ivan bhai has suggested., you must convey all your feelings honestly to her, before moving on. either by mail/text or f2f. why to carry some baggage, and loving someone is no offence.
after that remember the maxim that, its futile to have one-sided love. so forget it.
But relying on drink/smoke to cure emotional hurting has more adverse effect than benefit.
Hahaha
Woh bhi one sided wali ko
Simple block kar do
Try and hit on other girl
Yaahan koi bolta ki I was with that girl for 5 years tab toh koi saalah bhi deta
A few week and one sided phir bhi problem
Dont waste ur time anymore.
She ll never get interested in u.
Ruminating on what you could have done differently happens to all of us. However the point is, no matter what you do or dont do, if the girl isnt attracted to you, thats the end of the matter.
Perhaps she sensed your hints and chose not to notice them because she didnt want to reciprocate your feelings. Women arent as clueless as they say to men.
Either way, make things amicable again by being a gentleman. Who knows she may be interested in you in the future if she gets to know you better?
Whatever the case, its better to clear things up in person rather than text.
Why go into a negative spiral over what you could have done? Think about what is really important and what you can control (aka studies).
Reality after break up : Hilate Raho
Many reasons to still remain happy.
रोज नयी नयी प्रोफाइल बना कर लोगों को मूर्ख बनाना इसका पेशा है।
इतनी गज़ब की अभिनय क्षमता तो पेशेवर भिख्मन्गो में ही दिखती है।
और इसके चक्कर में जेन्युइन लोग बेचारे पर कोई ध्यान भी नहीं देता।
कुछ तो शर्म करो @naughty raja
Love is a dynamic concept with its ingredients varying over time and space.
For example, Love during UPSC prep can be defined as follows
For men : Sexual desire driven by availability of liberty and freedom granted by independent/non-interfering room culture/parks in Delhi.
For women : Greed developed out of perception of an aspirant with potential to succeed or guide in prep.
Many reasons to still remain happy.
ऐसा लगता है कि मिथुन की फिल्मो के खलनायकों की महासभा प्रारम्भ हो गयी हो।
Sincere apologies if anyone felt distracted/ offended by this post of mine.
I have been in genuine trouble and just wanted some suggestions.
क्षमा प्रार्थी हूँ .... छोटा भाई समझ कर माफ़ कर दें।
ऐसा फ्लो सिर्फ नॉटी राजा की लेखनी में ही नज़र आता है।
आओ ज्ञान की अविरल धारा में आप भी स्नान कर लो।
इस नॉटी राजा को तो अकादमी पुरस्कार से सम्मानित किया जाना चाहिए ,
नौटंकी का भारत रत्न भी मिलना चाहिए।
और इन सबसे बढ़कर फोरम के तथाकथित महाज्ञानी स्वयंभू सिद्ध पुरुषों ..... प्रेम गुरुओं को तो भारतवर्ष से तड़ीपार कर देना चाहिएI इंटरनेट पे एक से बढ़कर एक अश्लील प्रकृति का ज्ञान सर्वथा मुफ्त में उपलब्ध है .....अबे तो तुम सब की ज़रूरत किसे है ? UPSC तो निकलने से रहा.... किसी अश्लील वेबसाइट के लिए स्टार्टअप क्यों नहीं शुरू कर देते तुम लोग ....!!!
Kaise ho Mishra ji
Never told the guy that i like him, he ‘assumed’ probably because he had no other girl in his life right then.
Let me make it easier for you.
You have a boy as friend ? How close are you. And girls also have girl friends.
But when a girl and boy become friend its the boy who decides if he had been taken advantage of.
As if boys dont help other boys.
Girls dont help or seek help from other girls.
Problem is its okay da. If a girl says that she doesn’t think of you as a lover. You are not one of those kinds who ‘give’ favours in return or in perceived thought of having returns from the girl. Are you!?
And you are not fool enough to go bankrupt after a girl who has never even accepted your proposal.
Stop showing yourselves as naive , easily taken for a ride kind of boy. You guys are mature enough to not be turned into a boat
Comming to the moot point again - do you not help boys? Do you expect them to think that you are their best friend because you have helped them?
Or girls don’t seek help from girls?
It is because we all have a basic nature of seeking help (many egoistic people don’t) that we end up asking for guidance/help. Now boys don’t do that very often in case they have to ask it from a girl because it is assumed that if a girl can do this then obviously you can, so you don’t need to ask her help.
Try seeking help from girls without being the line marne wala kind , i think you will find girls who help and seek help both.
Cheers to the future
Kindly stop acting like a victim when a girl has clearly said no. And if you don’t want to be taken ‘advantage’ of
Many reasons to still remain happy.