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Maintaining Chastity during UPSC preparations (Why, How and Experiences)

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  • Time pass mat karo, jitni salaah mili usse dhyan se padho aur amal karo.

    Ok
  • if u want to do bakar..here is my suggestion...go for castration.
  • edited December 2017

    if u want to do bakar..here is my suggestion...go for castration.

    bakar-i se yaad aaya - halal or jhatka?
  • if u want to do bakar..here is my suggestion...go for castration.

    bakar-i se yaad aaya - halal or jhatka?
    Halal.
  • edited December 2017

    Thanks for all the inputs. I also want to understand the benefits of being a chaste on UPSC preparations. Some experiences please.

    You are serving a great cause -by not giving competition to your fellow mates. Benefits are to them. Things won't be so Rossy when you'll become 40...
    could you throw some light on this? Even our Hon. PM is a chaste. I dont think he is missing something from life. Further, I want to know impacts of being a chaste during the preparation phase. Our minds have to peak and I am ready to do whatever it requires to hit that peak.
    First of all Modi is 67 years old. At that age you don't have to try keeping yourself chaste. But in any case how do you know he is chaste?
    He is more energetic than people almost 20 years younger. I guess that's just one benefit.
    Madhuri or snoopgate nahin pata tumhe I guess... Baaki or news to Bahar aayi ji nahin hain powerful logo ki.

    Bik gayi hai ye gormint.
  • Sexual urge should not be repressed

    It may lead to serious mental problems

    Sex is a healthy part of a normal life

    If you are not interested in sex then there is something wrong

    Freud once said every action in life is related to sex

    Give me a personal message if necessary
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    bhawnaaein hee to hain, behne do. 25 saal ke baad chastity master krne ka koi matlab naheen hai. Had you been married, you would indulge in sex almost daily. Just do not keep thinking about or fanatasizing whole day - you'll end up wasting your time. Masturbate once everyday if the urge is too much or at 2-3 days and be happy. Keep focus where it matters the most. Sex to poori duniya krti hai. Tum bhi karoge hee kabhi.

    This is what the society says. Everything is hyper-sexualized as sex sells. I believe great men and women like Nicola Tesla, Mother Teresa etc. achieved greatness as they had total control on their thoughts. The question is, how.
    1)Good that you didn't include (knowingly?) Gandhiji's name in the greats you mentioned.

    So, learn the lesson from him. He couldn't totally banish 'it' even in his 60s and 70s and had to undertake queer activities to ensure to self that 'it' is under control.

    2)Mother Teresa? What the f?
    First rule of life is- you don't compare oranges with apples. On average, in adult males, levels of testosterone are about 7–8 times as great as in adult females.
    As a male, you can never understand the true meaning of menstruation or child-delivery, same goes for females in understanding 'it' in men.

    3)Solution lies in 3Rs:

    A.Recognition: that 'it' is here to stay (Go for finasteride or, yes, castration as sb suggested, if you need final solution)

    B.Resolution: Jerk off if unable to afford relationship. Frequency as per need: there is NO prescribed healthy level. To each his own. And yes, it's not sinful or unhealthy in short-medium-long term (Unfortunately even in 2018 majority of educated ones think so).
    Seek medical professional help if it's just unmanageable. Shelling out even a couple of grands is better than wasting 2 months suffering and saving that 2 grand.

    C.Reform: Change lifestyle. Change thought. Change or minimise what you watch online. Meditate (Headspace app just rocks!). If possible include any form of physical activity in life, even walking. Address diet. Address environment around. Renew focus/pledge towards your goal, Etc.

    4)Why make new thread on same issue? Two are already floating concurrently somehwere.
    Bande hain hum uske, Humpe kiska zor
    Ummeedon ke sooraj, Nikle chaaron ore
    Iraadein hain fauladi, Himmati har kadam
    Apne haathon kismat likhne, Aaj chale hain hum...{AW>>STS=SES=A4}

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  • if u want to do bakar..here is my suggestion...go for castration.

    Legend spotted among us.
    Sirji, Aap pehle?
    Bande hain hum uske, Humpe kiska zor
    Ummeedon ke sooraj, Nikle chaaron ore
    Iraadein hain fauladi, Himmati har kadam
    Apne haathon kismat likhne, Aaj chale hain hum...{AW>>STS=SES=A4}

    3rd Mains*
  • Thanks for all the inputs. I also want to understand the benefits of being a chaste on UPSC preparations. Some experiences please.

    You are serving a great cause -by not giving competition to your fellow mates. Benefits are to them. Things won't be so Rossy when you'll become 40...
    could you throw some light on this? Even our Hon. PM is a chaste. I dont think he is missing something from life. Further, I want to know impacts of being a chaste during the preparation phase. Our minds have to peak and I am ready to do whatever it requires to hit that peak.
    First of all Modi is 67 years old. At that age you don't have to try keeping yourself chaste. But in any case how do you know he is chaste?
    He is more energetic than people almost 20 years younger. I guess that's just one benefit.
    My dear friend a person who works among public will always be energetic and also tends to live longer. see most of the politicians live longer and it is certainly not because they remain chaste. So it doesn't impact your preparation. But if you force yourself into something u will certainly fail in everything you do.
    If you really want to remain chaste then think about preparation only and nothing else. Yet I doubt if u can remain chaste or not........... extreme meditation may help but I don't see a point to stop something that is natural just because somebody said to you that it will help u achieve some higher state of mind. Ask yourself what you want and try to achieve it and don't give too much importance to this.
  • edited January 1
    If you can believe me remaining chaste will in no way ensure u will clear this exam what will matter is how you studied and how much you understood. and on your analytical skills. and for this what is needed is not Chastity but hardwork or smart work. so focus on that........... do what ever you like and spend some quality 6-7 hours daily for studies. you will definitely come out with flying colours....... All the best
  • My take on this
    There has to be some correlation between conserving semen and having "purity of thoughts" with motivation. Many different cultures have embraced this. For example, in Christianity, some followers practice Lint where they refrain from engaging in any sexual encounters for a period of 40 days. Sexual engagement does drain a lot of energy. Maybe we can use this energy in pursuing our goals. I have read somewhere about sexual transmutation. Is it a fact or is it fiction?
    You'll float too!
  • edited January 1
    I don't think that much , just masturbated to some freaky a*nal compilation. Actually I've figured that it actually takes a lesser time to masturbate than it takes to fight with the urges. So instead of dissipating my mental energy in fighting something that's as natural as earth revolving around sun , i fap. Period. Plus i keep a healthy diet , and regular cardio, so no physical exhaustion as such.  You should watch that episode of seinfeld in which Elaine doesnt get enough s*x and her brain becomes clumsy af. Jerry's analogy of garbage picker was spot on tbh lmao
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    I am 30 years old with probably relatively high libido content...was fortunate/unfortunate to have several girlfriends, with sexual relations with five of them( no, i am not handsome, just with avg looks with some X factor probably :wink: )

    I had lots and lots of sex. But after all these sexual accomplishments , I am as empty as anyone with no sexual experience.

    There is no end to desires and sexual desire is not an exception. So, its better to please yourself on our own rather than craving for a partner because that would most probably lead to huge time loss, would totally divert you from your goal, all your passion to succeed will be drained out. At the end of the day, you will find yourself an idiot loser.

    The choice is yours, make your decisions accordingly.

  • I recently watched scientific experimental video on YouTube in which the participants (couples as well as singles) were asked to refrain from engaging in any sexual activities for 80 days and doctors and psychologists were continuously monitoring their behaviour and biological changes taking place in their bodies. The results were shocking. The majority of the participants became restless, violent (in varying degrees), lack of concentration. All their energy was concentrated on refraining from engaging in any sexual activities rather than doing something productive. There isn't any scientific proof that proves that maintaining chastity can lead to higher productivity in work or studies. Usually those who preach chastity are the ones who are in their old age and the ones who have enjoyed having sex in their youth. It's against the nature to supress the natural instincts.
  • freeman said:

    I am 30 years old with probably relatively high libido content...was fortunate/unfortunate to have several girlfriends, with sexual relations with five of them( no, i am not handsome, just with avg looks with some X factor probably :wink: )

    I had lots and lots of sex. But after all these sexual accomplishments , I am as empty as anyone with no sexual experience.

    There is no end to desires and sexual desire is not an exception. So, its better to please yourself on our own rather than craving for a partner because that would most probably lead to huge time loss, would totally divert you from your goal, all your passion to succeed will be drained out. At the end of the day, you will find yourself an idiot loser.

    The choice is yours, make your decisions accordingly.

    Dead Man said:

    I recently watched scientific experimental video on YouTube in which the participants (couples as well as singles) were asked to refrain from engaging in any sexual activities for 80 days and doctors and psychologists were continuously monitoring their behaviour and biological changes taking place in their bodies. The results were shocking. The majority of the participants became restless, violent (in varying degrees), lack of concentration. All their energy was concentrated on refraining from engaging in any sexual activities rather than doing something productive. There isn't any scientific proof that proves that maintaining chastity can lead to higher productivity in work or studies. Usually those who preach chastity are the ones who are in their old age and the ones who have enjoyed having sex in their youth. It's against the nature to supress the natural instincts.

  • DUNIYA HILA DENGE HUM DUNIYA HILA DENGE

    #₹ELAINCE
  • edited January 2
    Hi. Thanks for all the inputs. I wish to clarify few points here. The purpose of this thread is not to encourage chastity for life. I just want to understand the benefits of clean thoughts during this long and arduous preparation phase and impacts it has on the overall psyche of an aspirant.
    To put it more scientifically, semen secretion releases a lot of dopamine in your brain which makes you feel good and sleepy. So instead of focusing on goals, people start looking for instant gratification which then draws one into a vicious cycle. This wastes a lot of time and energy better spent elsewhere. Napoleon Hill has also talked about this in one of his famous books.
    Also, I would love to read experiences of toppers ( those who already are in services) with chastity and if they actual were chaste during preparation phases. Did it help them in being resolute in their goals? How did they keep distractions out? Chastity helped them with stronger resolution? etc.
  • Dead Man said:

    I recently watched scientific experimental video on YouTube in which the participants (couples as well as singles) were asked to refrain from engaging in any sexual activities for 80 days and doctors and psychologists were continuously monitoring their behaviour and biological changes taking place in their bodies. The results were shocking. The majority of the participants became restless, violent (in varying degrees), lack of concentration. All their energy was concentrated on refraining from engaging in any sexual activities rather than doing something productive. There isn't any scientific proof that proves that maintaining chastity can lead to higher productivity in work or studies. Usually those who preach chastity are the ones who are in their old age and the ones who have enjoyed having sex in their youth. It's against the nature to supress the natural instincts.

    Actually, after some point, I believe you dont have to fight that urge. It should come to you naturally. The fact that you have to fight that urge means that you are not a true chaste in thoughts and in actions.
  • edited January 2
    I would like to request people who meditate regularly to put their views on this topic. Spirituality and Chastity and how they help us in achieving our goals.
  • If you are geeting an opputunity then go for it ; because trying to suppress this feeling is like creating a pressure cooker; the more you try to suppress the more urge you will get; after all sex is a very healthy act and is not a taboo; by reading your comments it seems that you are taking chastity as something godly and sex as something regressive ; my dear friend that is a very wrong perception and you are becoming a victim of myth ; the only bad thing about sex or any thing in world is addiction;
  • edited January 2
    Chodd merra kya jaata :lol:
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  • Sidenote : Log modi ki baat krte he pr Obama ko bhool jaate, Putin toh budaape me bhi models k sath mje le rha...selective appropriation of facts...duhh
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  • India seriously needs sex education in schools.
  • If you are geeting an opputunity then go for it ; because trying to suppress this feeling is like creating a pressure cooker; the more you try to suppress the more urge you will get; after all sex is a very healthy act and is not a taboo; by reading your comments it seems that you are taking chastity as something godly and sex as something regressive ; my dear friend that is a very wrong perception and you are becoming a victim of myth ; the only bad thing about sex or any thing in world is addiction;

    Sex as an act is definitely not a taboo. Actually, it sustains mankind. However, my question here is that if artificially stimulating yourself, just to feel good for a limited amount time actually comes between you and your goal. Someone here mentioned Freud. Apparently, he went celibate after 40.
  • Sidenote : Log modi ki baat krte he pr Obama ko bhool jaate, Putin toh budaape me bhi models k sath mje le rha...selective appropriation of facts...duhh

    I intentionally ignore those who vigorously shag off to hentai. If you dont have anything useful to add to this thread, please quit replying lest you want to get reported for using vituperative language.
  • Sidenote : Log modi ki baat krte he pr Obama ko bhool jaate, Putin toh budaape me bhi models k sath mje le rha...selective appropriation of facts...duhh

    I intentionally ignore those who vigorously shag off to hentai. If you dont have anything useful to add to this thread, please quit replying lest you want to get reported for using vituperative language.
    Please do by all means, but refrain from being a hobo , and a hypocrite.
    Remember ,your freedom ends when it touches my nose, and you are awfully close to stick your fingers into my nose. 
    Homoboobus duhhh.....
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  • Sidenote : Log modi ki baat krte he pr Obama ko bhool jaate, Putin toh budaape me bhi models k sath mje le rha...selective appropriation of facts...duhh

    I intentionally ignore those who vigorously shag off to hentai. If you dont have anything useful to add to this thread, please quit replying lest you want to get reported for using vituperative language.
    Please do by all means, but refrain from being a hobo , and a hypocrite.
    Remember ,your freedom ends when it touches my nose, and you are awfully close to stick your fingers into my nose. 
    Homoboobus duhhh.....
    Don't be jealous with my vigor to jerk off to hentai , God has ordained  you as well but poor you wants to become a baba to clear upsc lmao
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  • Hi Epistemophiliac,

    Your question is a very important and relevant one. You are right in recognizing that sexual thoughts, pornography and masturbation waste a lot of time and energy which is very important for UPSC aspirant.

    Before going any further, I want to state that, few of my friends and acquaintances who cleared UPSC were chaste during the preparation phase. So, it seems that there is no direct correlation between chastity and success in the exam. But my own experience was that being chaste helps you improve your focus and saves a lot of energy.

    Many here commented that sexual urges are natural, so you should go with them and relieve yourself by masturbating or doing sex. But I think this is a wrong approach. Just because something is natural doesn't make it good. Once someone starts smoking, there is a natural tendency to smoke but we all know that smoking is very dangerous. Similarly, anger is also natural but we know that acting on anger seldom leads to good end results. We have to realize that what we feel as natural is because of buildup years of conscious and unconscious, subtle and gross knowledge, thought patterns and habits. Also, recent studies prove that masturbation and pornography act in a similar way (i.e. neural pathways of the brain involved) of dopamine release as that of hard drugs such as cocaine and heroin. You can guess how strong porn addiction can become.

    So, after making sure that there are benefits of being chaste. Let's focus on how can we be chaste:

    1. We have to recognize that both indulgence or repression of sexual thoughts is harmful. The solution is to observe our thoughts (how are they arising, when they are arising, how is your body feeling, how is your mind feeling). If you observe your thoughts, something very interesting happens and sexual urge loses its power over you and dissipates.

    Think of a river coming down a mountain at you. The worst thing you can do is try to repress or fight it. Similarly, being carried along wherever by it isn't that great, either. Instead, think about how you can gently make this energy more skillful.

    2. Notice the timing of these sexual thoughts/urges. Is it during a particular time of day or week, is it when you are stressed, is it because of boredom or is it when you noticed a particularly beautiful boy/girl. Making note of these particulars can help us be prepared when the urges try to overtake us.

    3. Prepare a solution for each of the above problem. For example, talk to a friend or drink some tea when you are stressed. Masturbation is a very poor longterm solution for stress. Similarly, to overcome boredom(which many people think doesn't happen during preparation), prepare a proper schedule for each day (which is doable). Scheduling also improves you the efficiency of study.

    4. Realise that some situations and conditions result in strong and frequent urges/sexual thoughts. Such as being alone in a room with a laptop, join a study hall and use the laptop in open areas to reduce the power of urges over you.

    5. Do regular jogging and exercise which relieves physical stress and releases Serotonin. Serotonin reduces stress and improves your memory.

    6. Please try to learn meditation (if you are not already doing it). I know it is hard at first but the benefits are overwhelming. There are good apps such as Headspace or Calm which gives a good introduction to meditation.

    7. Also, watch youtube channel Freedom in thoughts and other resources on how to improve the efficiency of learning.

    I know this is not easy but the long-term benefits overwhelm short-term pains. Also, meditation makes it half as hard(in my experience).

    Sorry for the long post. Hope this helps you.

    P.S. cool username btw :)
  • edited January 4
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  • * Some facts about getting laid in Old Rajinder Nagar :

    1. Very difficult to get, even if you get it and end up staying with him/her in live-in, your preparation is over. Madam ke sath room ki shopping karni padegi, hafte me ek baar bahar khilana padega, etc. Saanp mar jaye aur laathi bhi nahi toote, aisa toh nahi hoga.
    2. Gora, kala, chota, south Indian, north east, bihari doesn't matter.. I know someone who is 5'6 and with average background, a guy you wont notice on the road buy he dated a girl who's 5'10, delhite and from IIT damn she was hot and adventurous. Pyaar ke sath sath an sex bhi andha ho chuka hai! :wink:
    3. Friend with benefits is like a ghost, people have heard about it but rarely expierenced by someone. This is the best in terms of sex you can get in college or this preparation. Kismat ke dhani logo ko milta hai.
    4. Girls/guys who are new to this preparation are more open to sex and they have better chances of getting laid. Old players who are in late 20's have less chance, ab kisi ko personally CSAT padha raha ho koi senior toh Alag baat hai! :blush:
    5. Good amount of regular sex can really boost up your morale, confidence and chances for this preparation. Par milega nahi. Those who get it won't tell you.. And you may never guess it with their outward appearance!
    6. Devout your 'immense' energy in some physical exercise.. (Tried and tested successfully). Andar ki aag kaafi had takk shant ho jayegi.
    7. Mostly, girls you're interacting with in ORN are one of the most intelligent in terms of mental and emotional abilities in India, you cannot get away by fooling her, beware what you get into. Baad me lene ke dene na pad jayein.
    8. Aveage age being 25 in this preparation most people look for stability and long term relationships.. College ke dino ke flings aur infatuations jaise Kuch nahi hoga.
    9. Remember, excessive mastrubation won't help you. Low confidence, physical weakness, memory loss, fatigue, etc are its side effects. Shadi ke baad Kuch karne layak nahi bachoge, aur galti se exam nahi clear hua toh socho biwi ko 'kya' dikhaoge karke! :smiley:
    10. If you have heard stories of aspirants visiting GB Road or getting hooked up with local uncle, aunties, girls, maid!, yes I wrote maid. Yes it does happen but with 'serious' consequences.. Itna neeche mat gir Jana ki apni nazron me na uth pao.

    P.s. weed leke sex karna duniya ka sabse accha ehsas hai. Trust me, kabhi ho sake toh karna, aatma tript ho jayegi dono ki..
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